Do’s and Don’ts for When Things Don’t Go as Planned

I write this today with a heavy heart, as my family has just received terrible news…so after pondering what my next blog post should be I figured I might as well write something fresh on the brain.

Sometimes in life…things just don’t work out. For one reason or another, big or small, they just don’t. For me, this seems to happen every time I make a decision. In this particular situation, it’s the sudden dropping of plans that you might have been waiting for, for years…plans that gave you hope, that gave you a reason to wake up in the morning and face the day, even though you knew it had nothing positive to offer. And now that they’re gone, there’s nothing you, or your lover, can do about it.

What you CAN do and what you SHOULDN’T do though, are very important. I’ve compiled a few Do’s and Don’ts that I’ve learned from and should probably follow right now:

Do express your feelings.

Don’t let emotion build up.

Do talk to others about what is going on, sometimes it takes more than yourself to heal a broken heart. Don’t go to others who will selfishly lead you in the wrong direction.

Do know what you want in life.

Don’t mold your life around the appeasement of others.

Do build your plans up again.

Don’t place it on a back burner and then turn off the fire.

Do write a list of reasons why you should hang on.

Don’t dwell on reasons why you should give up.

Do wake up in the morning, get dressed, and continue about your day.

Don’t stay in bed and wallow.

Do go for a walk in the sunlight.

Don’t watch TV in a dark house.

Do call up your friends and spontaneously go out for a night on the town.

Don’t shut out your entire social life.

Do remember to eat normally.

Don’t starve yourself or binge eat.

Do drink and medicate responsibly.

Don’t go overboard.

Do be happy that you now have another opportunity to change things.

It’s not every day we get to do this.

Stay strong and love on!